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An influencer revealed she has been targeted by a ‘deranged and delusional stalker’ who flew from the UK to Bali to find her.
Alexandra Saper, 31, who moved to Bali from Washington DC five years ago, has been forced to flee her home after allegedly being harassed by a British man who threatened to ‘kidnap’ and ‘rape’ her for not replying to his messages.
Taking to her Instagram @thewayfaress, the digital creator explained in an emotional video that the man has been sending her ‘hundreds of emails and videos threatening, in graphic and disturbing detail’ how he plans to kidnap her.
She explained that she has already spoken to police in the UK and Bali, however the London based man has continued to harass her for over a year.
Now living in an undisclosed location she explained that the situation escalated two weeks ago when he flew to Bali to find her, claiming he’d ‘shove her body in a suitcase’ because she was his.
Alexandra Saper, 31, who moved to Bali from Washington DC five years ago, revealed she has been targeted by a ‘deranged and delusional stalker’ who flew from the UK to Bali to find her
She wrote: ‘This is not the update I wish I was sharing but here we are. For about a year, I’ve been targeted by a deranged & delusional stalker who, in the last 3 weeks, has flown from the UK to Bali to find me… sending me hundreds of emails and videos threatening, in graphic and disturbing detail, how he plans to kidn*p me, r*pe me and other women, shove my body in a suitcase, and more horrific things that I don’t need to share on social media.
‘It has been sickening and terrifying. There is an investigation ongoing, but ultimately I had to make the hard decision to leave and go somewhere I knew I’d be safe, where I couldn’t be followed, and I could start taking care of my mental health and focus back on my clients/business.
‘Before you give advice and make suggestions, please know I’m still only sharing a fraction of the details here, and I’ve probably already tried whatever you think I should do next.
‘I’m fortunate to be surrounded by SO many amazing, honoring men who (along with the exceptional women in my life) have gone well out of their way to try to help me, support me, and protect me. I feel so lucky.
‘I realize how privileged I am to have that kind of community, along with financial resources, this social platform, the luxury of being able to stay home, and the freedom to escape to somewhere else in the world where I know I won’t be found.
The Influencer has been forced to flee her home after allegedly being harassed by a British man who threatened to ‘kidnap’ and ‘rape’
The influencers online business ‘came to a screeching halt’ as she tried to stay off line and she didn’t feel safe enough to go anywhere alone, so she decided to move in with a friend
Taking to her Instagram @thewayfaress on Sunday the digital creator explained in an emotional video that the man has been sending her ‘hundreds of emails and videos threatening, in graphic and disturbing detail’ how he plans to kidnap her
‘I’m extremely nervous to post this video. I know he will see it. I know there can be consequences for being this vocal about what’s going on.
‘But I also believe it would be irresponsible for me to stay silent and hide, when I have a platform and influence, and when I know there are women out there who’ve already been victimized or could become the next victim of this man, and other men like him.
She continued: ‘Sending you all lots of love and appreciation, from my peaceful little riverside bungalow somewhere in the world.
‘I hope to have things back to ‘normal’ soon because I love my home and my friends and my job and my clients and Indonesia so much.
‘In the meantime, I’m not taking for granted how good it feels to be able to sit at a cafe alone and not feel scared.’
In the emotional video Alexandra opened up to her followers about the terrifying situation and to explain why she disappeared from social media for awhile.
In the clip she said: ‘I can’t tell you where I am for reasons that will become clear throughout this video, for the last two weeks I have been targeted by a deranged and delusional stalker who has flown across the world from his home in London to Bali threatening to find me, kidnap me, rape me, shove me in a suitcase, tie me up in his Bali villa, rape other women while forcing me to watch out of punishment for not reciprocating or obeying or responding to him.
The usually free spirited empowerment coach eventually started experiencing panic attacks
Now living in an undisclosed location she explained that the situation escalated two weeks ago when he flew to Bali to find her, allegedly claiming he’d ‘shove her body in a suitcase’ because she was his
‘For context I don’t know this man at all, I have never met him, I have never responded to him, I have never replied to his hundreds of emails and video messages that he sent over the last year.
She continued: ‘I blocked him on social media but he’s made fake accounts so he’s been able to continue stalking my wearabouts.’
She went onto explain that a few month ago when she was going through her emails she noticed some that made her concerned including one email from this man which showed he bought tickets to come and find her.
She later received pictures of him on the same street that she lives on in Bali close to her house.
She said: ‘He also sent hundreds of videos over the past few months in graphic detail threatening physical and sexual violence that he intended to commit against me.’
She went onto explain that she has sent all of this information to the police in the UK and Indonesia, she connected the UK embassy, she met with police chiefs, immigration officers, the US ambassador and head of security to try and get some help.
However Alexandra admitted she is ‘not interested’ in letting one person derail the incredible life and career she has built for herself over the past five years.
‘So far all I know is that the investigation is ongoing and that’s all I can say.’
The influencers online business ‘came to a screeching halt’ as she tried to stay off line and she didn’t feel safe enough to go anywhere alone, so she decided to move in with a friend.
The usually free spirited empowerment coach eventually started experiencing panic attacks.
Speaking to the Mail Online she said: ‘I’ve always been an adventurous, independent, ‘fearless’ person — I’ve traveled solo all over the world, backpacked in East Africa alone, trekked solo in the Himalayas, moved to a foreign country alone, dived with sharks… and now I fear leaving my home.
‘I’ve since left Indonesia and gone to another country where I am hiding, but I still have anxiety attacks being in public places, have horrific nightmares, and feel nervous and suspicious of any stranger who tries to talk to me.’
However she admitted she is ‘not interested’ in letting one person derail the incredible life and career she has built for herself over the past five years.
‘The truth is way before social media or live stream, way before short skirts and any of the sh*** that society likes to blame victims for women’s body’s were victimised by men who felt entitled to having absolute power over them and refused to take no for an answer.
Alexandra revealed that she knows she is not the ‘first women he has done this to and she won’t be the last unless he is stopped’
‘Although it might be easy and tempting to right this off as a unique problem for social media influencers, a problem that can never touch you or someone that you love, that’s not at all true, no women or man deserves to experience this kind of horror and abuse.’
She claimed that the system is more concerned about ‘cleaning up messes after they occur’ rather than ‘preventing them from the beginning.’
Alexandra revealed that she knows she is not the ‘first women he has done this to and she won’t be the last unless he is stopped’
She said: ‘I have essentially made it my full time job to get help for me and to make sure I am safe from him for as long as possible and to other women are safe from him after me.’
Shockingly Alexandra revealed she has met many police officers and officials that say ‘no crimes have been committed.’
Speaking to the Mail Online she said: ‘I’ve received hundreds of messages from women in the last few weeks who’ve gone through something similar, and not been able to find resolution, protection, or justice.
‘The most common causes of this are police not taking reports seriously until it’s too late; women not knowing they have legal rights as a victim of these crimes; and the gaslighting, victim-shaming, and victim-blaming so pervasive in the world that convinces women it’s better to just stay quiet.
‘The problem is not that there aren’t legal repercussions for stalking, sexual harassment, or threats of violence. There are laws.
Alexandra often shares her incredible life online with her 102,000 followers however she has now made it her ‘full time job’ to make sure she is safe from this man
‘This is illegal — in the US, UK, and Indonesia, although I’ve had to explain this to far too many people, including police officers, in the last few weeks.
‘So many people believe that ‘no crimes have been committed’ until this stalker actually follows through on his threats to physically or sexually assault me. This is not true.
‘We need better training and awareness for police regarding these crimes, along with their obligations to diligently investigate reports of these crimes, and appropriate victim care and support (laughing at her and telling her to calm down and stop being dramatic, is too common).
‘Victims also need to be educated on their rights, and what options to try next if the first police officers she speaks to won’t do anything for her.
‘And culture needs to change, people need to recognize that these crimes aren’t harmless, they aren’t ‘romantic,’ and they are never ’caused’ by how the victim dresses, or what she does for a living, or her being out late at night alone… Victims never deserve this or bring this horror on themselves.
‘Perpetrators of these crimes are responsible, not the victims. The story needs to change, enough it enough. This behavior is never acceptable, always harmful, and definitely a crime under the law in these countries.’
Speaking about the next steps for her, she continued: ‘Right now, I’m hopeful that the UK police will urgently and diligently issue an arrest warrant.
‘They’ve noted this as an ‘extreme’ case of ‘stalking with the fear of violence.’ In the meantime, I’m working to continue to share my story to the press, in hopes of creating pressure on authorities to take this seriously and act, as well as to raise awareness to how common this problem is everywhere in the world.’
Stalking is a pattern of fixated and obsessive behaviour which is repeated, persistent, intrusive and causes fear of violence or engenders alarm and distress in the victim.
Stalking is one of the most frequently experienced forms of abuse and it can escalate to rape and murder.
According to the National Stalking Helpline the majority of victims (80.4%) are female while the majority of perpetrators (70.5%) are male.
If you are being stalked the National Stalking Helpline can help if you contact them on saferfutures.org.uk
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