A mother-of-two has revealed how she ‘keeps the romance alive’ in her marriage, sharing that she has sex with her husband every day – so they don’t feel like ‘roommates’.
AnnaLee Ford, 31 and her husband, Ethan, 40, from Denver, Colorado, are parents to two young children – and noticed their lives ‘completely changed’ after having their first child.
The couple had much less free time to spend together – and found that tiredness, business and stress meant they began being less and less romantic.
They made a list of ways to keep the intimacy in their relationship – which includes kissing for 10 seconds whenever they say hello or goodbye and no electronics after their kids go to bed – and AnnaLee believes it’s worked a treat.
The couple explained that not only has their relationship improved in the bedroom, but every aspect has got better – and they are happier, argue less, kinder and ‘more in tune’ with one another.
AnnaLee Ford, 31 and her husband, Ethan, 40, from Denver, Colorado, are parents to two young children – and have come up with a plan to keep the romance alive
Pictured: Ethan and Annalee with their daughters, Elliott and Collins. The couple have stopped using electronics after their daughters’ bedtime in order to focus on each other
AnnaLee, who works as a water engineer, said: ‘It’s crazy how much things change after you have kids – it hit us harder than we expected.
‘Nobody really wants to think about sex when you haven’t showered in three days and your boobs are leaking and the size of Jupiter. Being intimate is hard.
‘So my husband and I decided to make our relationship a priority because without that, everything else will fall apart.’
AnnaLee revealed that the first thing they make a point of doing is being intimate every day.
She explained: ‘This doesn’t necessarily mean sex, but whenever we have alone time, we agree to do the ‘one minute rule’.
‘Whenever we have alone time, we have to be close for one minute, and give it a chance, no matter how tired we are.
‘Nine out of 10 times it does lead to sex after that for us – but what it does is ensure we don’t immediately say no without giving it a chance just because of tiredness or stress.’
The loved up couple force themselves to kiss for 10 seconds to say hello and goodbye and wrote letters to each other
She added that if sex isn’t your jam, another way of being intimate is sharing a shower, and washing each other’s hair.
A rule they have is no electronics after their children – Elliott, three, and Collins, one – go to bed.
AnnaLee said: ‘It can be a hard rule, and some days we do just want to lie in front of the TV, but if either of us wants to go without electronics the other has to do it too.
‘We sit together, read a book, talk and be near each other. And it’s nice not to be glued to your phone.’
They also say they have to kiss each other hello or goodbye and it has to be for at least 10 seconds each time.
This is because life can be busy and stressful, but this tiny thing allows them a moment to be close and still.
AnnaLee said: ‘Especially if one person is holding the baby, we’re so rushed to say hello or goodbye – in and out of meetings, making dinner, getting the kids to school.
‘We force ourselves to take 10 seconds to be slow. It’s a long time – but after the five second mark you start to notice yourself relax and get closer.
‘Then you can go back to your crazy days.’
While their list of rules might sound excessive or difficult to implement, AnnaLee said the more you do it, the more natural it feels.
But their followers on social media were shocked parents of two kids could get physical so often.
But AnnaLee said: ‘We don’t have sex every time, but we try to give it a chance.
‘Sex is like, sometimes at first you don’t want to go to the gym, but you go and do a workout, and then you feel great after.’
She added: ‘I do feel lucky that I have had two kids with my husband and I am still madly in love and so attracted to him.
‘But when you have kids and life is crazy busy, being connected is the only thing you can control.’
AnnaLee’s husband Ethan said: ‘Life can be very hectic, not only with two little ones, but three dogs, buying and selling homes, moving, and then you throw your career on top of all that!
Ethan and AnnaLee have also said they try to prioritize time intimacy everyday from sex to sexting, cuddling and kissing
The couple explained that life could be hectic, which is why Ethan and AnnaLee made each other their priority every day
‘With life, and of course all the really fun and happy times, it has been really important for Annalee and I to take step back and really focus on ‘us’ and our relationship and mutual respect and love.
‘A big part of our success is the everyday intimacy like the early morning snuggles in bed, the hugs, the little touches and kisses throughout the day, and of course sex, I mean who doesn’t love sex?
‘But success is also finding or making time to spend quality time together such as turning the TV off and just listening to music together on the back patio in the evenings.
‘Before kids, relationships felt more about the big, romantic gestures. Now that our life is full of babies and chaos, we have switched to also finding love and happiness in the little moments.
‘It’s all about the little wins after you have kids. This mindset has made such a huge difference in our happiness and quality of relationship.
‘We focus and prioritize connecting with each other daily, which not only reminds us how in love we still are with each other but also has a positive impact on our parenting, our relationship with our kiddos, our career, and all other aspects of life.’