Vanessa Lachey has revealed that she and her husband Nick only realised they wanted to get married after they broke up and dated other people.
The American TV host, 41, admitted she and her singer husband, 48, decided to temporarily part ways as she opened up about the past difficulties in their relationship.
Speaking to contestants on Netflix‘s The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On, she said she thought she would ‘never give a man an ultimatum’ but ended up doing just that five years into their relationship, as she wanted to get married and have children.
Trials: Vanessa Lachey has revealed that she and her husband Nick realised they wanted to get married after they took a break and dated other people
She explained: ‘We dated for five years. So I finally said, ‘What are we doing?’. I had moved in with him, I had renovated his entire bachelor pad, there was a bar in the pool, I was like ‘whatever you want’, and now I’m like, ‘OK I want to put kids in the pool’.
‘So that’s when I started doing the dance [waves her ring finger in the air].’
Vanessa admitted she and Nick broke up before eventually deciding they wanted to get married, saying it took them dating other people to realise their commitment to each other.
She continued: ‘If I’m being completely candid and transparent, we took a break. We both saw one other person and we realized that if we got out of our own way, we could be amazing together.
Break-up: The American TV host, 41, admitted that she and her singer husband, 48, decided to break up and both dated one other person after she decided she wanted to get married
‘But it took me seeing somebody else and me realizing I don’t mind the things that bugged me or were holding me back.
‘I don’t mind all that, the bigger picture is how I feel about that person and their values of wanting to be with me and knowing everything about me.’
‘I think we got perspective,’ Nick added.
Nick and Vanessa met when they co-starred in his 2006 music video What’s Left Of Me, shortly after his split from Jessica Simpson.
Romance: Speaking on Netflix’s The Ultimatum, Vanessa said she thought she would ‘never give a man an ultimatum’ but ended up doing just that five years into their romance
After their brief breakup in 2009, they reunited and went on to tie the knot in 2011.
The couple share sons Camden John, nine, and Phoenix Robert, five, as well as daughter Brooklyn Elisabeth, seven.
Elsewhere on the reality TV show, Vanessa shared her thoughts on how her husband Nick’s much-publicized marriage and divorce from Jessica impacted their early relationship.
Nick and Jessica, 41, who were married from 2002 to 2006, became tabloid fixtures when they co-starred in the MTV reality show Newlyweds and their subsequent separation earned worldwide media coverage.
Marriage: After their brief breakup in 2009, they reunited and went on to tie the knot in 2011 (pictured in April 2019)
Vanessa said that she had to experience Nick’s ‘very public divorce’ and were only able to ‘commit’ to their own relationship when they ‘let it go’.
‘He was literally in a very public marriage and a very public divorce, and I had to go through all that s**t very publicly and it was very hard for us,’ Vanessa told the contestants on the sixth episode of The Ultimatum.
She continued, ‘It wasn’t until the moment that he was like, ‘I’m gonna let it go,’ and I said, ‘I’m gonna let it go,’ and we truly committed to each other.’
Nick’s ex-wife Jessica went on to marry NFL player Eric Johnson in 2014. They are also parents to three children: daughters Maxwell Drew, nine, and Birdie Mae, three, and son Ace Knute, eight.
Exes: Elsewhere on the reality TV show, Vanessa revealed how her husband Nick’s much-publicized divorce from Jessica Simpson (pictured) impacted their early relationship
Vanessa and Nick co-host Love Is Blind spin-off show The Ultimatum, which focuses on six couples after an ultimatum is issued, where they must decide to marry or move on.
In the couples on the show, one person in the relationship is ready for marriage while the other has their own doubts.
They are issued an ultimatum and while they decide what they are going to do, they choose a new potential partner to get to know – from the other couples.
They are able to pick a new partner to live with for a three-week trial marriage, where they move in with each other to discover if they could have a successful relationship, or if their hearts remain with their existing partners.
Drama: Vanessa and Nick co-host Love Is Blind spin-off show The Ultimatum, which focuses on six couples after an ultimatum is issued, where they must decide to marry or move on
The reason for the partner switch up is for the contestants to capture a ‘glimpse of two different possible futures,’ according to the streaming service.
After their trial marriages, they then reunite with their original partners and move back in together for three weeks, testing whether they are ready to get down on one knee – or if they must let their relationship go for good.
The last two episodes of the series – Ultimatum Day and the reunion show – dropped on Netflix on Wednesday and will see the couple’s make their life-changing choice.
Big decisions: In the couples on the show, one person in the relationship is ready for marriage while the other has their own doubts