Vanessa Feltz admits she ‘feels foolish for having faith’ in Ben Ofoedu

Vanessa Feltz has said she doesn’t know now why her partner of 16 years, Ben Ofoedu was interested in her amid claims he cheated on her with several women. 

The radio presenter, 60, appeared on This Morning on Wednesday and admitted she feels foolish for having faith in her relationship and said she feels ‘terribly humiliated.’ 

Vanessa said she feels like she’s in the ‘eye of the storm’ at the moment after reportedly finding a string of social media messages and emails from Phats And Small singer Ben, 50, to other women. 

She said: ‘I think I’m feeling like anyone else would after a 16 year relationship that I had my heart and soul in. 

‘When you have to end a relationship it is very hard. I’ve had so many messages, it feels like millions, from people going through the same thing. I don’t want to minimize. People have been amazing.’

‘I don’t know why he was interested in me’: Vanessa Feltz, 60, told This Morning viewers on Wednesday she ‘feels foolish for having faith’ in her relationship with Ben Ofoedu, 50

Shock: Vanessa said she feels like she’s in the ‘eye of the storm’ at the moment after reportedly finding a string of social media messages and emails from Phats And Small singer Ben, 50, to other women (pictured in 2015)

Talking about how she is being positive in public but grieving the end of her relationship alone, she said: ‘It’s something to do in the middle of the night.

‘For God’s sake, I’m not alone, I’ve had it before, I’ve had a horrible divorce. But I’m absolutely not going to let it get me down. 

Journalist Vanessa and Ben first met in 2005 after she divorced surgeon Michael Kurer in 2000 who she discovered had also allegedly cheated on her. 

She and Michael were married for 17 years and they share daughters Allegra, 37, and Saskia, 34. 

Talking about Ben’s alleged infidelities, Vanessa said: ‘It wasn’t me that told anybody about it, I tried to keep it private as much as I could. 

‘You know that everyone knows your private business, but on the other hand, you don’t have to keep explaining it and everyone gives you a cuddle.’

And talking about the 10-year age gap with Ben, Vanessa said: ‘I’ve never really known why I’m of interest, he was younger i was older, we were different.

‘Now it’s over, I don’t know.’

She said: ‘For God’s sake, I’m not alone, I’ve had it before, I’ve had a horrible divorce. But I’m absolutely not going to let it get me down’

Adding: ‘It helps when people say that you shouldn’t feel foolish for having faith in your own partner, or feeling stupid for believing somebody you loved’

‘It helps when people say that you shouldn’t feel foolish for having faith in your own partner, or feeling stupid for believing somebody you loved. 

‘That’s not ridiculous. I feel sad, I feel hurt, terribly humiliated, but lots have said you shouldn’t. But to believe in your own relationship isn’t stupid.’

Vanessa was asked if she had a feeling that Ben was being unfaithful or if her discovery was a complete shock. 

She said: ‘Both, I think, terrible shock and a kind of gradual thing, It’s often the case, a mixture of the two.

‘I don’t really want to dwell on anything and I want to focus on the future and that there is a future. I want there to be. To really gather all the love and spend time having a good time.

‘We’re doing a phone-in about broken hearts, I don’t know but if they could call in and help me out and give me advice.

Honest: Vanessa was asked if she had a feeling that Ben was being unfaithful or if her discovery was a complete shock. She said: ‘Both, I think, terrible shock and a kind of gradual thing’

On the road: It’s been claimed that Ben’s return to touring with Phats & Small (pictured) at holiday parks around the UK led to his alleged roaming eye (Ben pictured with bandmate Jason Phats, right, in 2008)

‘If anyone wants it from me i can dish it out but if you wanted to call in and tell me, i feel like I’m in the eye of the storm at the moment. 

‘I would be so grateful for the advice.’

Vanessa previously shared a video and said: ‘I am so glad to be living longer than my mum did, she died at 57 and for the Lord’s prayers, I am going to be 61 next month.

‘I am very very grateful to be alive and I want to carry on feeling that way and I want to celebrate and find fun and laughter anywhere I can.

‘I know it is not going to be easy but I am absolutely determined to do it.’

Alongside the video, Vanessa wrote: ‘I’ve missed you #brokenheart #onwardsandupwards #love #life #friends #family #thankyou.’

Ben has broken his silence by simply sharing a broken-heart emoji on social media. 

‘Incredibly sad’: It comes after Vanessa shared an update after confirming she has split from her partner of 16 years, Ben but intended to remain positive 

Old times: Vanessa’s first marriage to surgeon Dr. Michael Kurer ended in 2000 after he reportedly left her for another woman, 13-years after they exchanged vows (the former couple are pictured together in 1997)