Dating expert reveals EXACTLY what you need to do to find love online

Speaking to FEMAIL love guru Ronnie Giandzi explained while having a top-notch profile might help lure in suitors it isn’t enough to seal the deal if dating basics are neglected

A dating expert has revealed how having a perfect profile picture can decrease your chances of finding love online and what you should do to ensure your new romance goes ‘all the way’.

Speaking to FEMAIL love guru Ronnie Giandzi explained while having a top-notch profile might help lure in suitors it isn’t enough to seal the deal if dating basics are neglected.

This includes keeping up with personal hygiene, arriving to a date on time and not talking about ex lovers.

‘Some mistakes are so obvious it’s astounding people make them over and over again,’ she said – revealing she too has suffered through lack-luster connections with men she’s met online.

The profile picture is a big one – with many pictures choosing images where they look their best, only to disappoint dates with their ‘every day’ look. 

The problem is online dating has become the new normal but it is still being perfected, she explained.

And people are beginning to realise a carousel of perfectly posed selfies and witty one liners make it almost impossible to find someone truly compatible.

‘Finding a partner is about a complexity of things such as how they make you feel, their smell, the sound of their voice,’ she said.

She warns against prioritising a ‘perfect’ profile picture – because people are more likely to be disappointed by the real you if it is too flattering

‘Smell contains pheromones. If they can work their way through a blast of perfume, deodorant or beer breath they trigger high levels of oxytocin and dopamine. We ARE programmed to be attracted to the right pheromones for us.

‘Voice is very powerful in attraction too. It’s biological. Voice contains a lot of cues about who you are and we’re programmed to understand them subconsciously. 

‘Just hearing a person’s voice can make your heart beat faster. Text messages, not so much,’ she said.

So it is no surprise most of the apps have added audio features.

Ms Giandzi has gone one step further and developed her own app, Concha, which is focused on the idea of vocal attraction.

This can help work out if there is a biological attraction before meeting – which is difficult based on pictures alone. 

Then it is important not to make any of the key mistakes.

‘Poor personal hygiene, is tops. It’s a biological turn off. People’s attraction cues are switched off by bad body smells and no one wants to kiss a mouth full of plaque,’ she said.

‘Then there are more subtle mistakes like turning up late. At the very least it says you don’t really care about that person. At worst, it says you don’t respect them.’

And while dating apps are the new normal – the method in which they are being used still needs perfecting

She has also been on dates in which men railed on their exes.

‘There are two sides to every relationship break-up. Blame shifting says horrible things about who you are as a person. Are you always going to blame someone else when anything goes wrong?

‘It also says you haven’t moved on. Who wants to start a relationship with the ghost of an ex hovering around?.’